Because of one main reason, effort. Somebody eventually stops trying as hard as the other. Someone thinks “Oh, I already have them. They’re mine, so why try as hard?”. I hate that. I’m scared of putting in so much effort, and getting none back.
“Sometimes you end up never speaking to someone who meant the world to you again. And that’s okay. You cope and you survive. Don’t let your losses keep you back from new gains.”—I wish someone had told me this when I was hurting, y.g. (via wendycorduroy)